“I love sex like I love breathing”. I still get the occasional awkward silence cricket sound reaction whenever this statement escapes my mind. The simple hoes would say “you go girl” and the hypocrites would look away or even frown with disgust. Ultimately, it’s been normalized by the people we idolize, shows we watch, and music we listen to. Also, the brands we support. But why is sex still a dirty word in some parts of the world? Why is something so good still taboo?
Since the human race sprouted in the primordial space, we fucked our way to almost 8 billion fuckers. Pre-civilization, when humans still look a bit more like apes, they only follow the ways of the natural world – to live, multiply, and die. Life was simple and sex was a vital element for the survival of our species. When humanity had a major system upgrade with higher life expectancy and running a more civilized world, other rules emerged to level the playing field.
I’m no historian, but it makes sense to reprogram human’s unrestricted sexual behavior through different forms of cultural and social concepts of guilt and shame towards sex to reduce the speed of reproduction. As people migrated from communal living and embraced the concept of monogamy, it has become more and more unacceptable to have sex with multiple partners and have children outside of marriage. It’s a complete shift from depending on the collective support of all of the mother’s sexual partners to having a stable one or nothing at all.
We Are All Hypocrites
When humans started to hide carnal desires behind closed doors, many things followed. Monogamy plus marriage enforced to protect the wealth and power of the elite. Languages and other forms of literature censored with very few exceptional works made in the name of arts and sciences. The simple hoes chastised by the so-called saints and our very own hypocrisy whichever’s worst. I wonder which one comes first. Inserting this concept to any existing religion or creating religion to drive such cultural change. Either way, these cultural changes are so deeply rooted that it will take generations to break. Not even decades after the rise of the sexual revolution and the discovery of contraception.
We made some progress in the past few decades or so, especially in most first world countries. Pioneers pushed the boundaries and questioned the norms so others can be more educated and open-minded. More people embracing their sexuality means more opportunity to discuss things openly and positively. Sex shops popping up and now thriving in the major cities. Forward thinkers pushing sex education to become part of every school curriculum. We educate ourselves and other people faster than before. With the help of the internet since most of life’s questions are just one google search away.
The Future of Sex
Sex dolls, robots, and virtual reality porn may seem like the ultimate sign that we have arrived in the future. But we still got a long way ahead. Only a fraction of the human population (estimated 50 million) use dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, or OkCupid. An even lower percentage of active users and serial daters. Although dating apps cannot solely measure and drive such cultural change, these vessels promote further growth in human sexuality.
Who knows? With everyone going digital, it might just be the right introduction that sex educators need to widen their reach. Virtual and augmented reality porn might include other senses like smell and touch to the package. Robots might become better lovers than humans. But let’s not get too far from what we can handle. Whatever kinks you may have, respect and consent are still two of the most important things in every sexual relationship.
Alice is a digital marketing professional and budding writer. She is now one of our main contributors for all things arts, music, and a little bit of spice under the Bed Squeaks & Beyond section here at Filter No Filter.